What our erotic dreams reveal
Erotic dreams can reveal much about yourself and your sexuality. They regulate your desires, free your fears and relieve daily stresses.
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An adult dreams for an average of 1 hour and 30 minutes to 2 hours a night. But where do erotic dreams come from? According to a French study, some 70 % of women and 80% of men admit to having erotic dreams… so that’s a lot of people having these types of dreams.
Erotic dreams usually first manifest themselves during adolescence and during puberty, first loves appear in dreams. “Adolescents often dream of serpents: a symbol of sexual awakening,” explains Georges Romey, French author of a dictionary of dream symbols.
Erotic dreams equal a healthy mind
“Beneath an appearance of total fantasy, erotic dreams are actually synonymous with good health,” Georges Romey jokes. Whoever the person with whom you are making love in your dream, the erotic dream shows that you know how to combine logic, intuition, action and imagination. An erotic dream can equally be a sort of practice run, where you prepare, in your imagination, for a real sexual encounter in real life.
According to Freud’s theories, the dream also plays a compensatory role. It brings the accomplishment of desire and satisfies unconscious impulses. In the same vein, an erotic dream allows the tensions accumulated during the day to be freed during the night, relieving stress.
Erotic desire or pent up fear?
Erotic dreams take their content from waking experience. There are no tricks with dreams: they reveal all our suppressed desires. For example, you might feel perky after a weekend seminar in Leeds. Apparently one of the lecturers has had an effect on you…so it’s likely in this instance that you will dream of having a sexual fling with this person, or your dream will be symbolic of this.
While desire motivates some dreams, fear can provoke others. One of the functions of the erotic dream is often to highlight our barriers… in order for us to better liberate ourselves. In a woman’s dreamlike imagination, for example, men could develop threatening attitudes. This type of dream expresses a fear of aggression, often in connection with angry or violent behaviour from the father figure. In this type of case, if the dream is recurrent, therapy could be useful in addressing the underlying issue.
Deciphering the dream symbols
So, to help you understand its message, the erotic dream often uses a language of images. Some symbols reflect the way you live as a couple and suggest solutions in cases where there are problems. If the sex life depicted in your dream takes place around a fire, this for instance, suggests your love is dynamic and well balanced.
Perhaps you’ve dreamed of going on a journey with your partner. Alone together in a compartment, the desire to make love seizes you, and at the crucial moment of your embrace, the train derails! And, to your horror, you realize that you are actually with your partner’s best friend!
Erotic dreams in trains are symbols of conjugal life, indicating how healthy a couple is. If the train derails, this could mean you are encountering a crisis. If the journey is harmonious, then well done! It seems you are actually living the dream…
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Posted 16.08.2011
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